Where do we derive acceptance? Some, and rightfully so, feel a person should strive to accept themselves and who they are – physically, emotionally and psychologically. From self – acceptance comes a peacefulness, a satisfaction.
For others, acceptance can come from others by experiencing a sense of belonging. Without meeting this need, often the other person feels rejected, and the relationship is abandoned.This may occur as a result of not showing affection, paying attention, or possibly being very quiet and shy in the eyes of a person – thus, causing rejection.
This may also be the case with a newly divorced or widowed father. The need to find a new companion overshadows a child’s requirement for attention and caring. In this case, the adult acts more like the child – a total role reversal and A HUGE MISTAKE easily made through a lack of judgement and responsibility.
What is the other face of acceptance? As in the situations described above, adult responsibility and unconditional love was needed. “Other focus” is the key. In many cases this may affect future relationships.
In other words, it is essential an adult behave as an adult, regardless of the conditions they face or their need for acceptance. In any stage in life, in any relationship – personal or professional. Doing so may create peace for both involved and reduce the opportunity for long-term anger and the destruction of relationships.